Y’all know that song? “You’ve got to know when to hold ’em, Know when to fold ’em, Know when to walk away” Well it’s been living rent free in my head. We often find ourselves at a crossroads, with the difficult decision of whether to fight for the relationship or to walk away from it. It is a profound realization when we reach a point to where we have exhausted every thing we have to give to show someone we love them yet the relationship remains unfulfilled. This moment of clarity is undoubtedly the most challenging yet the most necessary for our own growth and well-being. For those we deeply care about, we may find ourselves pouring our energy, time and affection into the, hopes that it will be reciprocated. However, there comes a time when we must understand the harsh truth that despite our absolute best intentions and unwering love, the person may not be capable meeting us halfway.

It is crucial to recognize that we should not be a-side endeavor; you deserve respect, understanding, and effort just as you give it. Sometimes they may not be able to meet you halfway and you have to come further. However, this shouldn’t be the case throughout the entire relationship. When we find ourselves in a situation where we have given our all, yet the relationship remains stagnant or toxic, we must muster the strength to evaluate the situation objectively.

Walking away from a relationship, especially one we invested our heart and soul into, can be immensely challenging. Especially when they are a family member. However, holding on out of fear of loneliness or the fear of change only perpetuates our emotional state of mind. We must acknowledge our own self-worth and understand that letting go does not negate the love we once felt; it simply shows our strength to prioritize our own happiness and well-being.

Conversely, there are instances where fighting for the relationship, particularly when both individuals are willing to communicate openly, address underlying issues and work towards a healthier, more fulfilling partnership is worth it! In such cases, perseverance, patience, and compromise may pave the way for a stronger bond built on trust, respect, and genuine love.

Ultimately, knowing when to hold on and when walk away from a relationship is a personal journey that requires introspection, honesty and self-love. While the decision may be wrought with uncertainty and heartbreak, it is essential to trust your instincts, honor your emotions, and prioritize own happiness and well-being above all. Embracing the courage to let go is necessary. It is a profound act of self-care and a testament to your resilience and strength.

Should you stay or should you go? Choosing others over yourself? Allowing a continuation of mistreatment? Clearly, I’m the Problem if so.

-Callie