On this journey of self-discovery and personal growth we come face to face with things that test our strength, resilience, and self-worth. One significant obstacle I recently encountered is the realization that I have allowed others to mistreat me because of their “title” in my life.

How often have you found yourself biting your tongue and/or emotions when someone close to you says or does something hurtful? Do you justify the behavior by rationalizing it? Do you find yourself saying “ that’s just who they are” or “they mean well,” but the reality is, we are allowing a cycle of disrespect. Today, I realized “Clearly, I’m the Problem”. It dawned on me that by staying silent and allowing the repeated remarks, I was not only diminishing my own self worth but also allowing the other person to believe that their behavior is acceptable. Whether it is family member, a close friend, or a respected member in our community, no one should continuously mistreat you.

Is it considered rude to address such behavior? Absolutely not. Is it necessary to address it the first time it happens? Personally, I believe in the power of active listening and understanding before reacting. However, if the same statement is repeated, it is crucial to speak up and set clear boundaries.

I want to acknowledge the importance confronting these situations head-on. It is essential for us to express our feelings a constructive manner and stand up for ourselves. People who truly love you, will listen, they will also accept this. Those who don’t, won’t. Unfortunately, there are so many people who simply think, they are the only ones who know what’s “right”. No matter how silly it sounds if that’s what they believe, you will never get them to see things through your perspective. Then you have two choices: Accept it, or don’t accept it. Either way the ball is back in your court.

As I reflect on this introspective, I realize that the key to breaking free from cycles of mistreatment lies within, by acknowledging your own self-worth, setting healthy boundaries and empowering yourself to cultivate relationships built on mutual respect. Moving forward, I am committed to advocating for and addressing any behaviors that will compromise my well-being. It is clear to me that recognizing and addressing the role I play in this is crucial for my personal growth and happiness. By embracing self-awareness, assertiveness will pave way for healthier, and more fulfilling relationships in my life! Unfortunately, “Clearly, I’m the Problem” AGAIN!

-Callie